In my experience, the roommates who get along the best are not the ones who are best friends. Ironically, roommates who have similar living expectations in common but don't have a lot of social similarities seem to have the most mutual respect for each other, the space, and each other's time and privacy.
One situation that happens a lot with roommates living with each other for the first time is crossing the boundary with sharing personal information outside of the house. If you live with roommates long enough, they almost become like family. But because they are NOT family, often disagreements and fights take place because in sharing a small space you get to know very personal information about each other, but because you haven't grown up together, often sensitive stuff is not taken seriously - and people's feelings get hurt.
I was a resident assistant in a women's dorm for two years in college. Ironically, the roommates who got along the best were the ones who saw each other the least. Another thing that helped many girls was making a "chore chart" - or at least having a plan of who would do what and when when it came to housekeeping tasks (ie: cleaning, bills, food, etc).
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