In my experience, the roommates who get along the best are
not the ones who are best friends. Ironically, roommates who have similar living
expectations in common but don't have a lot of social similarities seem to have the most
mutual respect for each other, the space, and each other's time and
privacy.
One situation that happens a lot with roommates
living with each other for the first time is crossing the boundary with sharing personal
information outside of the house. If you live with roommates long enough, they almost
become like family. But because they are NOT family, often disagreements and fights
take place because in sharing a small space you get to know very personal information
about each other, but because you haven't grown up together, often sensitive stuff is
not taken seriously - and people's feelings get hurt.
I was
a resident assistant in a women's dorm for two years in college. Ironically, the
roommates who got along the best were the ones who saw each other the least. Another
thing that helped many girls was making a "chore chart" - or at least having a plan of
who would do what and when when it came to housekeeping tasks (ie: cleaning, bills,
food, etc).
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